1.  Love – love is a complex category – first and foremost in order to love, one must have security – without security we have (category 2) fear – Now when we are in fear, our mind does not have the capacity (like the brain-power, the ram, processing speed) to deal with much – We can simply focus only on protecting ourselves  – However, assuming that there is security, there are fundamentally two types of love: animal and Divine – the animal loves are for that which provide an instant-gratification, included in this is friendship, even compassion, as it provides an instant feeling of compassion when we see someone unfortunate (this is in contradistinction to pro-actively thinking about what one’s mission is and concluding it is about helping people.) The Divine loves are Torah and doing God’s will.

The second state is fear – the state of fear as-mentioned knocks out the state of love – as the famous author of Chovos Halivavois writes, “The heart cannot hold both fear and love simultaneously” – hence we read by the Prophet Jeremiah (when under the starvation siege in Jerusalem) “Kind women cooked their children” – At that moment, because their need was such, they lost all compassion – We see this fundamentally with all types of savagery – people God-forbid lose their heart – one should never imagine that they couldn’t do any evil act ever done – as bizarre as it sounds, given enough pressure, there is nothing – no sadistic evil you are incapable of.

3. Then there is the center (love is considered the right-side, fear the left) The center is the quest for truth – it is not emotion (like love and fear are) based, rather intelligence based – Obviously to have this quest, a person must overcome both instinctual loves (which would cause addiction, hence lack the ability to think objectively) and fears (number 2.)

This is why it is specifically in our times when many people thank G-d have both security as well as the ability to overcome instinctual desires (for-example the desire for sex, which gratified enough, like all desires, loses its attraction) therefore the quest for truth can begin.

4. Growth – ironically, the quest for truth  should not be confused with growth – for one, though being quite a noble aspiration is nonetheless tied into the mind’s fundamental curiosity – the other relates to overcoming self.

Growth is the entire purpose of mankind.

It is to continually advance   – ultimately this is the highest messianic state!  as it says “we will grow from level to level”   (now obviously man on his own cannot continually grow, for his capacity to understand, like he himself, is limited; yet by humbling oneself to the Divine truth, as the Baal Shem Tov teaches, God is always communicating new lessons – we just need to be open and attuned, then and only then, infinite-growth can ensue – This is another and big subject.)

5. Finally, unfortunately there is depression – depression is when we have shame – This unfortunately can come from one of two sources – the first is that we may feel that we should have done something and failed; the other is far more insidious, for it is induced – now in truth, no-one ever has, nor ever will have the right (nor you to others) to shame (you). However, there are many bullies (in fact, antisemitism, antiAmericans, all are simply form of bullies –  This comes from the psychological condition called narcissistic-personality-disorder – It goes like this: Someone believes that they are greater than others (this itself comes from one of three fashions, 1. A person, like the Germans are simply born delusional; “super-race” : )” 2. They have been praised based on some kind of talent 3. They have suffered narcissistic-wounding, which in English means they have been shamed, and the ego trying to heal them, makes them delusional – the problem with these people, is that all people desire, joy and not pain – but pain is mostly psychological, for it’s the result of anger, and anger is the result of unfulfilled-expectation – Now there are two kinds of people: humble and arrogant – if I am humble, when you do not give me what I request of you, I don’t get angry – if I am arrogant, I DO!! – Now anger itself is a painful state, this then causes jealousy -Jealousy is the desire to rape, abuse another, until they lose their joy (or whatever is the source of your jealousy – this can be seen in the famous story of King Solomon, whereby two women had given birth and unfortunately one smothered her child while asleep – now each claimed the single child – King Solomon ordered a sword brought in and ordered that the baby be sliced, and half given to each – One mother cried out, “Give the baby to the other” whereupon King Solomon said, “You are the real mother” –  You see, the jealous mother wasn’t looking for a baby, rather she subconsciously resented the fact that another had what she was jealous – So in summary, we have five states: One is the state of desire based on things we love (this as-mentioned can be both for instinctual gratification or more noble Divine pursuits (as we speak, there are millions of people enjoying some type of spiritual bliss.) The second which unfortunately traps many, is the state of fear; The third is realizing that your loves are meaningless… so the quest for truth; The fourth is the ultimate state, that of purpose, growth; and finally, terribly there is the state of depression; however there are two types of depression: there is self-depression whereby a person withdraws from self (as fundamentally he is ashamed of self, hence there is no part of self that he is attracted to) Secondly there is the depression caused by others – in other words, internalized-shame caused from a narcissistic bully – this is the most dangerous state, for it often succeeds in a. making the person become delusional (as-mentioned, as a protective mechanism, for whereas self-shame doesn’t imagine that others perceive you shameful; an outsider’s shame does) and once the delusion kicks in, God-forbid we enter b. anger; and once the anger kicks in, we God-forbid enter c. jealousy; and once jealousy kicks in, we become, A d. evil-bully