In a healthy scenario, we have self-pride (this doesn’t mean feeling proud which is arrogance, rather our image of ourselves which say would be like we see another whom we consider to be good)

The second is that we have shame (this really is what causes depression – I believe I have failed)

Then there is shame from abuse – in other words, I don’t believe I did anything wrong, but I have been publicly humiliated – the net result of this is a host of deep resentment issues and complete behavior shifts – for firstly I am angry at the person who humiliated – secondly I feel others must agree, for no one stood up (when in fact others don’t stand up, out of fear of also being abused) So now, not only do I hate the person who shamed, mocked, humiliated me, I also hate all people! – for society (which we see as being “the people” outside – “the public”) did nothing! – now hate leads to a desire to abuse, hence the abuser gets another abuser