I am helping out at a farm which helps rehabilitate, mainly guys who came out of prison – so one of them, told me about another who is a bully “You can bully some people, but you can’t bully me.”

What do you think about that statement?

Should he turn the other cheek?

The truth is, I believe, he is correct.

You see, in Judaism (as opposed to Christianity) there is no such thing as hurting, nor allowing oneself, or another, to get hurt.

And this is the crux – for some people seem sweet, but really they are scared kittens – they are sweet because they are fearful, and hence a. they allow themselves to be bullied and b. as the Talmud states “If you are not strong, eventually you’ll become cruel” for the intent of a bully is to transform your loving heart into a resentful one, hence a malicious – bullying – one.

Others are too tuff – in essence they are constantly playing defense – as they don’t want to get hurt – again! – they become the tuff guy (or girl.)

However there is a third way – in other words, instead of being tuff, nor being weak; understand.