1. Obviously a person cannot be in fear, so having security as Maslow defines it, is a necessary step number one; and in order to not have fear, we, well, need to not have fear! which quite simply means, not to be afraid, and in order to not be afraid, we need to feel that there is nothing to fear / be afraid from; which either can happen, that there has been no negative experiences in your past, hence no thought of future possibilities of fear; or the profound internal gut understanding, that everything God does, is for the good, hence there is truly only good in your life!

2. We need to have love – now ironically, this is the biggest mistake we make! particularly in the western loveless society; for we think someone needs to LOVE US! – love is never about someone loving you! it’s always about YOUR LOVE for someone! – you cannot feel SOMEONE ELSE’S love; rather you feel YOUR REACTION to their love; (for love creates love) hence it feels good when someone loves you, because you’re feeling YOUR LOVE to them! – to love people, realize, your soul is God, and everyone’s soul is God, and as there is one God, you and everyone are intrinsically connected; we are also connected, as we are all messengers from God to do good, hence the more you identify with people (you don’t even need to like them) the more you’ll love them!

3. But perhaps even more important than both of the above very important factors, is having a purpose to your life – we humans cannot be happy, living selfishly; we have God in us, a profound sensitivity toward the pain and suffering of others, so find your soul’s calling, and listen, and do it! For it is truly in that, as Victor Frankel points out, in meaning in life, that we find our happiness!!!

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