A very experienced American psychologist explains the issue with abuse is not the pain, it’s the injustice.

You see, pain we get over, but injustice creates resentment.

As a child we understood if we were punished for doing wrong, but if our sense of fairness was ever raped, we probably remember it, to this very day!

But that’s the reason why unfortunately you suffered!

You see, those who were abused abuse, as those who were loved love!

In other words, once a person is abused and their equilibrium has been shattered, their belief in a good world has turned to a belief in a bad world, so now they feel insecure, angry, low self-esteem etc. etc.

The net result of such feelings, is, they feel pretty crappy

Now as we all have jealousy in us, they think “it’s not fair!” “why should I feel like crap, when you feel so happy!”

So the reason – even from parents – you were unjustly hurt; was simply, because they were jealous of your joy! and the fact you too feel resentful showed it worked!

“But they had such valid reasons?” – firstly, if the reasons were valid, you wouldn’t feel resentment, as explained before – secondly, a human being desires to believe they are just (after all, they themselves resent the injustice that happened to them) hence, they rationalize evil; in other words, they genuinely believe that you or others are evil, because this allows them to a. act on their jealousy, and b. pretend to themselves that they are still just! Sent via my BlackBerry from Vodacom – let your email find you!