Fundamentally as the Alter Rebbe teaches us, we can either believe we deserve what we get, hence with everything we get – as often happens in marriage – we believe we are now entitled to more – hence nothing can ever make such a person (maybe you and me) happy, for as you can easily see, you can never get more, if more is you fundamental position!

If on the other hand, we change our fundamental position, believing, which is the truth, that fundamentally we shouldn’t even have been born, our and every single living thing’s existence is a mere gift of a loving creator who made us in his image out of the greatest act of love (as it states it is the nature of a loving giver to do so) hence, we will never get upset at anything, for whatever we have is good luck and whatever we don’t – well we’re still pretty damn lucky!!!