Why do people feel torn?

Because they have no center!

Imagine many spokes of a wheel, that are not attached to a center.

On the other hand imagine, you are the center – then you don’t have any problems with extra spokes because you’re centered.

When life is a series of desires, we are like random spokes, flying in every direction!

However, if we are centered, knowing that our entire existence is to transcend our desires through become a giver instead of a taker, than every spoke that relates to our center namely, eating, sleeping, going to the bathroom etc. etc. which is necessary for existence  and more importantly giving, through making money to give charity or / and the family etc. etc. creates that all these spokes being part of a center, do not split you, rather complete you!