you see it goes like this – marriage, I remember asking a married woman (a relative) Do you understand men? (and she confirmed my suspicion) No. – I think it’s fair, with the plethora of jokes, men will certainly admit they don’t understand women – So if you take two people who don’t understand each other, well you end up with some cases of joy, most cases of misery – but thank the good-Lord, you know, how something suddenly comes to you – you can just sense it – well far be it from to conceal revelation : ) here it is – the old fashioned marriage worked (note the statistical incidence of divorce exponentially increases as modernity comes in) and the reason that it worked, is it fundamentally spoke to the inner desire of both sexes -you see women want to be second class – yes, they want to be the ones who take pride in the achievements of their husband (of-course men don’t mind to be first) – (just to help us understand – a man doesn’t mind to be a fan of his favorite sports team – he doesn’t mind waiting in line to see the game – he doesn’t mind cheering – he doesn’t mind shouting at the unfair umpire – after all, his association with such important personages, well doesn’t it up his own – so for a marriage to work, men need to realize that they truly need to be a person their woman wishes to be associated with)