Wow I just personally discovered the secret to marital-bliss – In Chabad House a kind lady makes the Challah – so there she was in the kitchen struggling to get the dough to descend (from one bowl to another) Well I went over to hold the bottom bowl – not much of a big deal… however as I walked out she said, "Thank you so much for helping, that really made a huge difference" Aha’ – you see, we men sort of think women have magical abilities – but in actual truth everything they do takes effort – so what if in point of fact every little thing that we help creates tremendous gratitude!!