Why men and women have such a hard time understanding one another – imagine if you saw an amusement park, so you run toward the rides – you are telling your friends "this ride is so amazing, it does four upside-down loops etc.!" now imagine someone tells you, "by the way, that ride is not just a ride, it is a person who manged to shape himself into a roller coaster" – now you are in a dilemma – Do I treat this object in a reality which is to serve my needs? or do I treat this person as a self-sustaining reality?