when we are small we fall in love with ourselves (this is a necessary development of ego stage, for without it there is nothing we would desire; as desire is the result of self-love, it is the desire to fulfill my desire; this in essence is what love is, for when you love someone, you desire to make them happy, which is why a depressed person loses all interest) however when we mature as Tanya – perhaps, it’s primary teaching, based on Kabbalah – tells us: we need to divide off the evil in us, in its words, you should despise yourself, yet celebrate the Divine