We used to think that protecting people from pain is the most noble of goals, however psychology now believes that a. pain creates growth and b. what is most critical in life is not not having negative emotions, but having the ability to overcome – you see, for a person to expect a perfect life is not only ridiculous, it is meaningless (for only through struggle can you achieve, for anything that happens automatically is not your achievement) the trick to life is to realize that a. you are not in control b. you can always pick yourself up and in fact allow what happened to make you a better, wiser, humbler hence more compassionate person