We know in Kabbalah, there are three primary states – there is the emotional state of love – where you think all people love you and so you do as well – there is the emotional state of fear where people are scary to you, for when we have been bit by a dog once, we fear all dogs, certainly if we have repeatedly been bitten; and fear like any abuse which feels unjustified, will turn into anger, and anger itself is a negative-state and then there will be jealousy of those who don’t feel negative and hence an irrational hatred and bullying to try to make others also feel fear, resentment, anger (this of-course explains the irrational motive of bullies, terrorists, radicals) But then there is truth, truth is like the saying "I never met a man I didn’t like once I got to understand him" – yes, this is the truth, and this is the third rational, critical and true paradigm, namely the paradigm of understanding; for when we understand another’s emotional reality, we will only feel compassion, never hate, and this and this alone is the truth