We fail to realize, the world that exists outside of us, can only be in existence as a reaction to us, which is both proven scientifically and taught Kabbalisticly, and if this is the case, it means, it is a reaction! so imagine, if you were say a blank page on Microsoft Word, now you can either allow yourself to be abused or used at will, or you can understand “well if I have my fingers on the keyboard…”