We are here to become someone new – yes we are not anything – our first identity (as is empirically obvious) was merely a result of our family, instinctual self and cultural role-modeling (which is why people in so many different lands are so very different – in fact, people in the same land too) as my daughter who kein ayin hara is very wise, says, "Don’t find yourself, become who you wish to become" – but as reality is infinite, hence so to the people you can, should and will become! (and each version is a necessary identity, for like downloading many apps, every time you abandon your old self and introduce a new one, you don’t lose who you were, rather, you simply extract the positive, while letting the negative go, and you begin this cycle anew.)