We all are in one of three states; expansive, in which like seeing a bird’s eye view, we are able to objectively think, hence rationally comment – the second is the exact opposite, we are filled with fear hence all we see ( as emotions cuase perceptions – particularly of the emotion) everything and everyone looking ferociously large and all we can do is survive – as it is often fear of repetitive shame that has caused this fearful state hence to protect ourselves we develop perfectionism which is a subconscious medium whereby imagining that as we are perfect hence not subject to abusive shaming ( narscasim) and this is a form of seeking protection – finally there is truth