Without understanding this, the fundamental motive – as one of my Dean’s would say, “you always have to understand the individuals psychology” and there are general motives based on specific circumstances  – well you may mistake a terrorist for a freedom fighter, a Jew for a killer, a gay person for someone who is married, and a person who is against murder as a tyrant.

Let’s begin:

First and foremost, What is God’s motive? – God created this world as a gift – “it is in the natural of lover to love” say our sages.

God placed man in the Garden of Eden, this is the sum total of all we need to know.

“It is not good for man to be alone;” explains the great and holy Baal Shem Tov – what is so bad if a man is alone? – well with no one to challenge you, you will come to think you are holy… (for as we by nature love ourselves and as love is blind hence we will be blinded by our self-love and not recognize how we must grow – for such is the nature of a garden that a. one must continuously till the soul b. one must continuously plant and c. one must continuously prune (weeding out the negatives, but if we cannot see our own weeds/negatives who will? )

So God made woman, as the Bible so clearly states, “a help opposing him” – for though you cannot see your faults, your upset wife will be happy to point them out (hence if you were truly righteous your wife would love you and wouldn’t see your faults.)

That’s the good news – God also placed within each and everyone of us a snake, this snake, a little like the job of the upset wife, is to constantly challenge us – you see by nature we are lazy, we don’t wish to work our garden, but through constant challenges: a. we don’t have much of a choice, as the pain ain’t worth the laziness and b. we through fighting always become stronger (this is just as we build a muscle, for it is exercise that breaks down the cells which create new healthier ones and the same goes in the spiritual, so every low is for a subsequent high in an endless cycle)

O.k. now we know who we are, why we are where, why we need to get married…

This personal story also plays out on a cosmic level, the Jewish people are like the husband to the world – the gentiles often were like the upset wife evoking the latent spirituality – but now as the Rebbe says, we have entered the messianic age whereby most gentiles themselves have become the “Jew;” hence cosmically the gentiles role is to support the Jew – quite literally – so he can continuously ascend in his spirituality thus being able to share ever more.