ultimately life really can be said to be the constant – truly constant struggle between our emotional desires and our common-sense, what is called the heart and the mind – firstly we must becomes aware of our desires – many do not know that they are not thinking – their thoughts are simply like steam rising, the various aromas, be it a lustful, an anger (God-forbid) a pleasure, a need for security wafting into their consciousness – this is why the same person can be super-rational when it comes to another, and literally killing themselves (from drugs and the many other forms of self-defeating mechanisms)