Two in one

You know yourself – are you really a single unified person!? – The truth is, we all are multiple personality – as Freud says, we can see from people with mental disturbances, a lot of what all people have. For all people can God-forbid become people with mental disturbances; it is only the environmental pressures – anxiety, fear, stress – that bring these things to light.

So looking at multiple personality is a very good way to understand ourselves, for multiple personality creates, that a person sets up a number of identities – the tuff guy to deal with tuff people – the soft guy to deal with soft people – it is merely a split mechanism, in which the soft heart, uses a tuff exterior to defend itself against abuse.

Likewise, we all have two basic dispositions:

Love and Fear

But, in order to be in love, to have love, as the Alter Rebbe teaches, we cannot have fear!

These days, we can see this clearly in the brain, for fear overrides rational thought – emanating from the prefrontal lobes which is the only animal in the universe to have prefrontal lobes, hence, all animals are not capable of rational, only instinctual thought – so fear affects the amygdale-nuclei-region and when we are worried we literally become like children, with very raw emotions of fight, flight, freeze, which are the only three options; usually taking the path of least resistance, be it, flight if we can, freeze if we can’t, and only in extreme cases when the fear relates to childhood abuse (for all fear actually correlates in the brain, so if God-forbid a. was abused in childhood, hence the fear is very high, hence in adulthood all fear feels very fearful, and the reaction may be very aggressive, to prevent the perceived danger; as studies show that girls abused in childhood have six times the normal anxiety levels of the average adults, so the – as Freud calls it – prevention of panic, is always on the alert, which is normal, given their experiences.)

The net result of a person living in fear which can even be the slightest worry, say about income etc. etc. is the person becomes an anxious person – and he operates exclusively on a fight, flight, freeze mechanism – now fear of course has its benefits, for it does motivate us as no other drug in the world, to try to ensure that that which we fear doesn’t come to pass, hence a certain low level of fear – in other words, a certain sense of need to work or need to educate our children etc. etc. must be present; for if we just live in a state of delusion, all-love, we will get nothing done!

You see, love feels great, that’s why there are so many songs, poems etc. etc. written about love, but love also contains the problem, that like a light bulb, it spreads it’s light too thin; so if you want to be focused, you need a new kind of light – it’s called a laser – you see the laser beam concentrates the light into a direct beam, creating an incredible array of benefits!

Ultimately, this is the combined state of positive love with focused fear, a person needs to undertake! – in other words, know what / whom you love, but realize that love doesn’t make things happen, you need to also fear not achieving the desires of your love, for then and only then, when you both have love, as well as a fear of not achieving your love (obviously you need a practical mechanism how to achieve it as well) that instead of the dissipating light of a light bulb, your love becomes a concentrated beam of energy, with powers to produce miracles!!!

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