To the extent… – To the extent that we are feeling pain, is the extent we seek pleasure – To the extent we are feeling shame, is the extent that we seek love and pride – To the extent that we feel humiliated, is the extent that we seek honor, love, and pride – To the extent that we feel aimless, is the extent we seek truth and meaning and purpose – and To the extent that we have suffered, is the extent that we can grow