To feel abused is to give credit to the abuser – in other words, if a dog barks at you, it may be unpleasant, but abused you certainly do not feel – because after all, it is a dog and you are a human; there is no difference! for if someone abuses another, they are not a human, they are in fact worse than a dog, for the dog is following its instincts, but in this case, an abuser has become overtaken by their Yetzer Hara, narcissistic side, which cannot stand that anyone has it better than them, that they are simply seeking to destroy another’s self-esteem.