To be normal we all must go through three stages – stage 1 is the dream stage where having formed about the age of two our identity and living in security, we dream – the second is we must get abused/bullied, for this takes us out of the dream – this is quite traumatic, as all trauma is simply changing perceptual paradigms which effectively is completely altering identity- often we will go through a faze of anger, as not only were we abused but no one cared – however ultimately this leads us to our true self were we lead