Those who don’t love others hate themselves, though there are two types of self-hatred, one is depression the other repression; in the former I am angry at my behavior; in the latter, at not deterring my abuser; hence not only do I have depression, I also have usually anxiety ( for "what’s to prevent future abuse?") as well as anger, which usually leads to jealousy, for this is a human trait, hence we develop narcacim as it a. is a form of self protection ( it tells others we are " tough") as well as b. It justifies abusing