There is the right and wrong understanding! – Love which is what God wants me to have (as it creates compassion and unity) is right – wrong, is love which is what I naturally have (and if I base myself on my nature – then the same nature, in anger God-forbid can be cruel – which is the basis of every cruel thing in all of history – which has been heinous.) Intimacy – if I do it because God desires unity and children, it is right – vs. if I do it because it makes me feel good (well as mentioned, if it’s about me, then love turns to hate as well.) Money which is because God wants me to be rich so I can help others, do lots of good deeds… and help myself is good. – vs. money because I think others will honor me (in fact this may be a subconscious way to be mean – hoping that others will feel “less than me.”) Power which is for the sake of keeping peace, and safety, is good – vs. power which is to simply “get ahead – king of the castle” –