There is only way to live life, realize that we are a composite of many many desires and all desires are glue traps – imagine a glue trap, so you want some cheese, and WHAMO you are stuck to the cheese glue trap for life! – similarly, desires are no different from magnets, whatever you desire, even your Divine souls union with God, is a Desire glue trap! – So you want to be trapped? Or do you want to be flexible? – So all you need to do, is realize, that the secret to life is in having a single all encompassing desire, NAASEH VENISHMAH, “I will adhere to God’s instructions and then try to delve into the wisdom behind it!”