There are two kinds of people – those who our first identity which is born from the illusion of power, because God gives us an illusion which is created through crying for the first year and a half of our life, and getting what we need… In fact both Chassidus and psychologists say that there’s no greater narcissist than a baby… and while the baby may have to throw some tantrums and learn that he is not the king of the world at about the age two… the fundamental self-identity which is "I should be King" has not left…. and until usually the shell is broken which is painful as hell… only then can the Soul…the Divinity infinitley fly