There are three basic realities, first is the state of security, when a person is secure, their instinctual desires will manifest only regulated by their fear of shame; then there’s the state of insecurity when the person is insecure two things happen, first of all the primary desire is to be secure and second of all they most usually will create a false identity in order to cope and that false identity usually also like in the case of a bully has no conscience, then there is the third state which is a state of truth, that God is good and it is our job to be good too