There are three attitudes visa-vie others, the naïve child state “I love everyone so everyone loves me” and the result of love is to give (this state lacks all boundaries, a bit like the hippies) then there is the exact opposite “all people are cruel selfish sobs” (this state is based on having been bullied and hence as the mind fears people it creates this belief) the result is a person doesn’t love anyone only uses and abuses – lastly the truth – just as you don’t want anyone to judge you and you want everyone to assist you when you need it – do so for others