There are in truth, basically three paradigms which all people fall into, the first (usually or hopefully the childhood one) “all is love” (this is because the child is loved, so if their love continues, the reaction to love is love, so as they were loved, they love;) the second “all is negative” (often how adults feel) this is because a person somewhere along the line gets bullied (as many people who were already introduced to the negative state become jealous of those in the loving happy state, hence bulling is perhaps the most contagious disease there is) and the mind compares a previous stimuli with all potential similar simulants, hence as one person told me, it says in the Talmud “if you burn your hand on hot water, you become afraid of cold water,” for the mind is there to give you what you want and people want pleasure and don’t want pain/shame, hence a person becomes fearful of all people (for it was a person – or at least someone who looked like one- who hurt) hence if every person gives you a feeling of fear, all truly does become negative – the third is the truth and the truth is that life is not really about being in pleasure and not feeling pain, life is about growth, about transformation and unfortunately the pain is necessary as Jung says “there is no birth of consciousness except through pain,” for it wakes us out of the delusional love zone, and as pain and feeling in fear is a negative state and we wish to get out of negativity eventually we arrive at the truth, that all is a set up from God to allow his infinite messages of how to eternally grow, transform, become a better person filter through.