The unforgivable line

On Simchas Torah when there is a custom to drink, a Rabbi got drunk and he insulted one of his congregants – now though he later apologized the hurt ensued – In life there is a line that may never be crossed – and that is demeaning – And the problem is, often when we have been demeaned, two things happen, number one, the notion that that is prohibited (a no-no) has been destroyed (for example, a friend of mine who is very bright said “You cannot expect Al Capone’s son not to steal” for in his reality theft is how you make a living – This is reality, for it is not what you parents say, but do and don’t do, that becomes your value system!) Secondly it creates a desire to demean others, for not only do we wish for vengeance but as we feel visa-via all people demeaned, we have a sadistic urge to demean anyone (which will temporarily lift our ego so it won’t feel so down)