The truth is, that if we are by nature lovers of people, why do we find people being harsh? – the answer is, that we have one source of emotions – our heart – in our heart we can either be feeling love, which is an attraction to whom or what we love, or not. – so why would we not feel what we naturally feel? – the answer sadly is, that in order to feel love, like a building – we must have a secure foundation – if our very foundation – if our basic paradigm of our existence is unsafe – for whatever reason – whatever the source of the fear – the heart which is worried, anxious, hence depressed, lethargic, doesn’t have the energy to feel love – so in order to love, the first step is to rid oneself of worries, which as the Alter Rebbe teaches, comes about, through choosing to believe that all that ever has, is, and will occur to you, is a blessing from God! – though we may not always understand.