the thing that I have noticed about life is, the safer we are, the more we think we are thinking – the less safe we are, the more fanatical are we about our thinking (as our thinking is really about protecting ourselves – hence while in the first instance it is really fantasies, in the second, it is psychotic; namely, bizarre notions of how to become secure, in other words, desperate hopes which provide some measure of solace from our traumatized heart) but the more experience we have and every day we add to our experiences, the more we come to discernment, the ability to almost imperceptibly and instantaneously choose