The Ten Commandments to feeling good
By zevi770 · February 11, 2016
- In order to feel good you cannot be feeling bad – the things that make us feel bad is primarily anger/resentment/outrage, for in this state our ego is angry, and until we either take revenge (which usually then would make us feel guilty) or we learn to either “forgive and forget” or have faith that though a person may have done wrong, it came from an all-loving God for a benefit to me! (as Josef forgave his brothers and in fact assisted them through this belief) we remain in a bad feeling state. The second bad feeling is guilt (as opposed to anger which is externally caused, guilt is internally caused) getting over guilt is not easy – fundamentally to get over guilt we must firstly be proactive (for hardly can we feel proud of ourselves if we are only reactive) but we must also know that our minds are like a video-game for the satan places guilt (the yezter-hara which is the satan) in us all the time – we must know that unless we have chosen to repent, say on yom-kippur, we must tell ourselves “Now is not the time to think about what I did wrong; repentance takes a proactive (not reactive) dedicated time and place.” The next bad feeling is fear – in a study of over 500,000,000 people in Europe, fear was found to be the genesis (cause) of all mental ailments, disturbances, anxiety etc. The only way to overcome fear is to believe that everything that ever has is and will occur to you comes from God’s love (for example, if I God-forbid go to have an operation I don’t fear it, for I know it is coming, for, not against, me.) A good technique for this is to do what the Baal Shem Tov teaches, “When you see the good in the bad the bad becomes good.” The fourth negative is loss – we get sad when we lose a loved one or something we love – in order to get over loss we must grieve – that is why there is a seven day mourning period, when a person sits at home (in Judaism) and others visit them – mainly for emotional support – It is o.k. to feel down, as long as you know that the purpose of grieving is only to be able to continue forward.
- We need to feel our life is meaningful – to feel your life is meaningful you must actually do something meaningful! – choose three people whom you wish to love unconditionally – now think something positive about them daily, say something positive to them (if appropriate, “I love you”) and do something positive for them, even chocolate or flowers, for when another sees you love them, this gives them joy.
- Throw away the junk food. Eat primarily vegetables and fruit – only have fish and chicken / meat as a treat on Shabbos – When you eat healthy you feel good (and you live also longer and healthier.)
- Exercise regularly – when you pump up your heart, you feel much better and you are healthier.
- Love – this is perhaps the most important thing you can do – When you love you release serotonin into you bloodstream – all you need to do to love another, is either see what is admirable in them, or realize what you share in common with them: You are both creations of God – Both of you are here to make God happy by adding in your goodness and kindness – You may share a soul-root with them as all Jews are sourced in the same soul-root – Obviously as a fellow human you share 100% of your dna with them.
- Become part of the Rebbe’s army – In every generation there is a unique all-encompassing soul (in fact, all other souls come from it) that embodies the Divine will – for example, there was Mosses, there was David, there was the Baal Shem Tov, and there was/is the Rebbe (for though physically he is not here, spiritually he continues to be the Rebbe) The Rebbe called for firstly love; secondly spiritual advancement / growth; thirdly sharing the Torah and Mitzvos with every Jew and the seven Noahide laws with every gentile, and many more beautiful campaigns!
- If you are a man you must earn money – without money you have host of problems – if you are a woman you must have the blessing of marrying and having as many children as possible as the Rebbe says, satisfaction comes from using our talents to the max.
- Now that you are one of the Rebbe’s soldiers and doing good, you have an additional problem, the Yetzer Hara (the satan) who will do all in his power to distract you via any and every means possible – you need to have a Mashpia, Chassidic Rabbi or Rebbetzin who understand it is the Rebbe’s “war” and who can advise you if you are following the Divine track or getting veered off.
- For men to get married – there is no greater feeling of emotional security and love than in a marriage.
- Always work things out – there is nothing worse than acrimony, nothing more painful than when two people who love each other fight – There is only one way to work things out which is give and take, to understand, it cannot be “my or your way”, rather we must be prepared to meet each other half-way! or trade – so sometimes you will get your way, sometimes I will get mine!