The secret to lifestyle

 

We are born hopefully into a womb – into a hearth – into a loving mother and father – our needs are cared for – we are adored – in other words, we have no needs, hence no fears.

Then comes “people” – everyone as statistics show has been bullied – we develop people anxiety – in other words, now we have fear.

Suffice it to say, a European 500,000,000 person study (which must be the largest ever conducted) reports fear is the basis of every mental (and possibly physical) ailment.

As Tanya (the Bible of Jewish mysticism says) love is a toward motion (get what I desire – what I wish for) but fear is an away motion (retreat – like a stop-sign – as well, of-course in danger, Prevent – So fear not only causes a passive state; when fear turns into anxiety – DANGER! it becomes an active force – now as we know, a person cannot run in two directions at the same time – so I cannot be going toward what I want, and away from something else – In other words, when fear takes over, instead of living a life based on my wishes, I live a life away from danger. – In a study of school photos, they looked at girls with the “Pan-Am smile,” in other words, instead of relaxed, easy, happy faces, the tight lipped, slightly curved, to produce a smile (under duress) Of-course these girls were control-freaks, perfectionists, which of-course is based on fear (of criticism). Tracking these girls later in life, the obvious result was one set was happy, the other miserable.)

However the truth is, as anyone who has had the gift (as many in the western world do) of security, can tell you, it’s not all that it is cut out to be… – for in the end of the day, existence is well boring – so in actual fact, we must overcome the body’s tendency to simply desire comfort (which is the reason both for security and insecurity.)

Instead we must consciously choose