The real secret – God made everything in this world in a male female paradigm – the male has a desire to give, the female has a desire to receive – in the dynamic between man and wife (before the insanity of absolute insane “liberalism” distorted common-sense) the female evokes within the male this instinct – but truth be told, we must rise beyond such a simplistic view – for Kabbalistickly what happens on earth is the inverse of heaven – Kabbalistickly, though on earth the female seeks the love and protection of the male (for it is the nature of all to both seek love and protection, from those assumed to be more… hence a male would seek this from his boss, a person from the President – a wise person from God) nonetheless, in absolute truth, it is the very vulnerability of the female, representative of the Kabbalistic doctrine, that “the end is rooted in the beginning” – so if the male does offer love and fidelity, this evokes the Divine infinite source, giving them both eternal joy.