The problem with relationships is very comical or ironic – you see, as Chassidus teaches, we take pleasure in that which is different, which is why a speaking parrot is funny (while a speaking person is not). So therefore, a man and woman take pleasure, in well, that which is"funny" – Simultaneously though, when we receive pleasure from something, we don’t take it serious (like the talking parrot; not realizing, this is a real, feeling, emotional, sensitive creature.)