The problem with life is like the joke "I love humanity, it’s the people I can’t stand" and the reason for that is, because, we all love love; and we’re all jealous if we think we’re equally entitled; so when somebody "pushes us out," therefore, if we believe that the shame they gave us is true, we then number one create a narcissistic false personality, to protect ourselves from shame; and additionally, as we’re jealous, subconsciously, we in turn, join the cult of shaming