The only person who can would and did shame you is someone who themselves lost thier self-regard, self-esteem, self-love due to shame, hence instead of loving, looking forward, engaging life, they are motivated out of fear- as we know there are two prime motivators / motors that drive humanity and humans, love or fear- so unfortunately as many people have become fear based (perfectionists, bullies etc.) therefore life is as living hell-for example, imagine if God forbid you were captured and forced-otherwise God-forbid you would be beaten – to become a slave-laborer, hence your work would not only not be a source of pride but shame and pain) therefore such people become jealous of people whose lives are not fear based, and jealousy like hate is a drive to eradicate, annihilate, and demean the person you are jealous of – hence angry people- the ultimate symptom like black or even white supremacists (for they all claim they need to save the world from the opposing evil) need to be thoroughly ignored