The only owner’s manual to ourselves necessary – it all boils down to actually a tug of war between two parts – your raw intelligence -and your raw emotions: desires, lust, fantasies, fears – as the Baal Shem Tov says, if you would like to access your raw intelligence (for 99% of the time our mind is merely the screen upon which our emotions are projecting, hence daydreams and day-nightmares etc.) ask yourself "If this circumstance would provide me with no honor nor benefit, how do I feel"