The joke about reality is this – reality has no beginning and no end – everyone conceptualizes how a force began everything, and how it all concludes – but reality is infinitely beyond such a silly story – reality cannot be judged from the perspective of the observer for the observer is part of the created reality – it is like a rock trying to understand reality, which is obviously “what was before my destiny and what will be after?” for all observers, like dreams, have themselves as the primary question in the equation – but if reality created you… the question is never from the perspective of the created but the Creator – and Kabbalah teaches us a number of wishes that propelled all of creation – the first is love, the second is love – the first is the creation of you! the second is the gift of God, ultimately becoming (as stated many times in Torah) “your God” a personal guide – the third is love, namely, the ability for us overcoming our egos (thanks to God’s helper the satan who smashes our delusions of grandeur) and becoming more kind (thanks to God’s Torah, instruction, inspiration, guidance ) resulting in unity