the bottom line of reality is of-course we are a figment of our own perception – the simple proof of this was – before you were born, did you exist? – and if you exist, now, what makes your existence real? rather it is the fact that you perceive your existence to be real… – but more important than the perception of your own reality is the question of your self-esteem… – do you see yourself as lovable – and here is the ultimate truth, which perhaps is the entire goal of kabbalah, for there are only (seemingly) two options a. I am lovable, b. I am despicable (which many people who have been shamed, develop as Obama has, narcissistic disorder, in which to make up for feelings of inferiority, the brain (which is charged with protecting us) creates a delusional opinion of self) -but there is a third and true option, ask not “am I lovable, ask only what”