The bottom line of life is simple: it always was and always will be this way! – in Kabbalisitc/Chassidic terminology, in order for us to live pure (free of kelipos) in psychological terminology, in order for us to be kind and not cruel, there is but one way and that is that we must learn to dissociate from the notion that our minds are capable of rational discernment (for they are in truth capable, to the extent we cannot discern! of being subsidiaries of our desires! hence people who themselves would judge another for being cruel, can be cruel, as they have a desire, such as anger, while as they don’t have the other’s desire, they will see it as wrong) and accept to only adhere to God!