Souliner: As we approach the time of forgiveness from God, here is how to forgive man, say to yourself “I forgive everyone,” if you can’t find it in your heart to forgive, then you may not hold a grudge, then write to the person (not vengefully) and say “I am upset that you did such and such to me” (this is the best therapy, the misery caused by being hurt, is the feeling of being demeaned and once you either forgive or “confront” then you haven’t been demeaned no more.)