someone was mean to me – now I have two options: the first is I can take revenge – now if I get revenge I may feel temporarily better, but if I don’t, I may feel permanently angry; the other is, I can realize that it is impossible (based on psychology, for one person to be mean to another (in this scenario, me) unless that person is suffering! – for unless I was mean to him (which I wasn’t) the only reason he will seek to be destructive (bullying, antisemitism, anti-west, anti-rich, in fact anti everything, even anti, anti) is because they have become jealous