So you want people to really love you – it’s so easy – our sages teach (but to preface, within us there are three primary functions, the brain has the ability to conceive and understand, but the heart is the center of love (and its corollary fear, for we fearing losing our love) so our sages teach, that hearts mirror – so all you need to do for people to love you, is love people (again this is not the third thing, the body’s ability (action) rather it’s an emotion which comes about by seeing either the good in the other (causing attraction) or seeing how you and the other are similar (causing identification)