Reality is really simple, we have a choice, we can change from our instinctual soul dominating us by desiring; through opting into selfless or we can G-d-forbid, as many have, not only be dominated by desires, but furthermore, become worse than the most vicious animal, if we don’t forgive; as well as learn how to be grateful, for we become angry ironically not only from being hurt but also (which is another way of our ego exploding) when we believe we have been hurt; which happens, when we believe, we are entitled to something another has which we don’t (jealousy)