passive assertive and aggressive

 

These three are the sum total of reality, as psychologists write, that we are always in one of four modes the first is passive – in other words, we like people, and are likewise afraid of criticism; so we simply acquiesce – the second is assertive – when we are assertive, we have gone through life, at some point we have learnt how to be aggressive – Aggressive is when we are angry – we feel people are being obnoxious – we see their evil, and are determined not to be taken advantage of – However there are three possible states of aggression: the first is full scale aggression – the person is in full scale aggression, believes that everyone seeks him harm – this is because his mind had gone into fight or flight mode, and as you cannot run away from people, as you need them for various aspects, namely, you have to buy your food, you are often in a relationship etc. what you do, is you put on the mask of aggression – you (basically the bully stance) pretend (most often you have forgotten that you are pretending, and actually see yourself as this) to be a tuff person – this tuff person can neither be taken advantage of, nor will you allow anyone to take advantage – you become a criticizer – constantly criticizing everyone (this in fact is the jealousy part of aggression – for aggressive stance, is basically a defense mechanism, and no one enjoys always being in fear and anxiety, hence the critical side of aggression gives a person the ability to “justifiably” abuse others – these people, will often also become highly evil, in raping, even torturing other people, and they include all the evil people past, present ..) Then there is the assertive / aggressive person – this person is actually not aggressive rather assertive, s/he does not exist in a state of aggression, rather assertiveness (now the spectrum of assertiveness is always somewhere between passive and aggressive and no-one can say they are perfect – in fact, I believe we are always increasing our knowledge of the correct balance) So while this person is not weak, they are likewise not evil – the only difference between the passive and assertive person is, unlike the passive person who is fearful, hence will not stand up for themselves (unless provoked to the point of aggression) the assertive person, is able to kick in their need to be aggressive, in order to quell someone else’s aggression – This is in fact God’s reality – God is assertive – we see this clearly in God begins life in a very passive way – he then “sees the evil and regrets the world he made” – he then becomes aggressive, he “wipes out the whole world” – he then “regrets this act of aggression and says he will never again wipe out the world” – learning from the past, he “rearranged reality” – for previously people had it too good – they lived for close to a thousand years, the produce produced and they became quite simply arrogant – In this state of arrogance they believed they were God – now God makes man die in a way that others are conscious (even if just subconsciously of their mortality – perhaps this is also the need for so any instances of diseases that science cannot control like cancers etc.) then God slowly but surely introduces truth – first through Abraham, then through the destruction of the arrogance of Pharaoh, who claimed himself as a god, with no one being able to tell him right from wrong – there are millions of points along this epic journey – but there is no doubt, as Kabbalah has the three sides, 1. Right, chessed, love, attraction, passive 2. Left, fear, anger, critical, judgmental 3. and Centered – this center is the line in which man becomes God – namely, assertive