Our lives were not chosen by us, they were chosen by our loving father in heaven, who desired to give us love and the greatest love he can and hence has given us, is the combination of on one hand our personal discovery of the truth, that there is a loving father in heaven, and then to be influenced by the infinite (never ending) wisdom that he constantly feeds us through Judaism, Jewish mysticism and perhaps no less important, the myriad of life lessons that we should discern through our experiences!