One of our greatest problems is like the joke, someone asked a couple how come they have such a great relationship? – oh’ that’s simple said the husband, I take care of the big problems, she the small – for example, I decide who should win wars, superbowls etc. etc. she decides everything else! – we often – as the Rebbe teaches – are so busy worried about the big issues, we don’t realize, we neglected what we can change, for what we can’t.