One of our greatest errors in life is, for example: Arabs, black-radicals and this can and does happen to anyone (bullies case in point) when we internalize a negative self-image we subsequently try to destroy other’s positive one – the reason for this is, there is a natural jealousy – hence “if I can’t have it, you shouldn’t either” – this is so instinctive, that there is a repetitive study (in other words, it always works) that if you introduce a monkey into a cage and there is a banana, but as he goes to get it you spray him with water (which they fear) then if you do the same to three or four more and then the next one you don’t spray the water, so he happily eats the banana, the other monkeys beat him up! – so the instinct is, “if I can’t have it (and I am equally as deserving) you shouldn’t either!” – the trouble with this thinking is: You Can Have It! – You Are Already Beautiful!! and whoever condemned, you had flawed thinking